Your care is always what they wish for

Your care is always what they wish for

     “Thank you mama, I love you”, said little Nina when her mother gave her the books that she had purchased while returning from work.  Though she was working, Nina’s mother gave all her time for Nina when she was around.  She heard all the school stories what Nina had to say.  Nina did very well at her school, she had friends and was always cheerful.

     Pravalika’s mother was also working.  She was a manager in a corporate office.  Her priorities were different.  She came home late and rushed to gym.  She attended late night parties.  She never cared what Pravalika did at her school. Pravalika was longing for her mom’s attention.  She wanted to say about so many things that happened at school, but her mother had no time for her.  Pravalika grew up to be a withdrawn child.  She was always in the state of distress.  She did not do well at school, she had no friends and did not participate in any sport or other activities.

    Parents, what do you feel when you read these two stories?  Your quality time for the children is very important.  Kindly give them all the time you have in the world.  Be with them.  Listen to them.  There is a strong connection between your investment and competence of the child.  If you are not there for them, they develop behavioral problems.  They do not understand how to regulate their emotions.

     Some mothers are very hostile towards their children.  They feel that it is their right to shout at them.  Depressed mothers cannot give positive support to the children.  Negative parents foster negative emotions in the child.  The child becomes very arrogant and show behavioral problems.  They cannot adapt well to the society.

     So care givers, be warm to your children and give all the support.

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5 Comments

Kavya Narayan Posted on5:35 am - Aug 21, 2017

Children are the best teachers to parents..in today's world most of the parents wants their children to get into competitive mode,due to which children tend to care least about their parents.the care n love for family is very limited, upbringing matters..let's always bring the feeling of togetherness,it's only one life that we have.

sahana sundar Posted on5:38 am - Aug 21, 2017

Thank you Kavya for you wonderful comment

Vishwanath Dixit Posted on6:51 am - Aug 21, 2017

1)Quality of time is very essential for children & according to me quality refers to state of mind of parents at that time
2)Parents always have the feeling of authority over children & think that they need to follow whatever they say we can recall Khalil Gibran's saying as "CHILDREN ARE NOT FROM YOU BUT THROUGH YOU" we need to FOREGO the sense or feeling of OWNERSHIP.
3)Acceptance of child is also very vital because where there is acceptance there is Love.
4)We as parents always claim that we take so much responsibility & do Many things for our children but "RESPONSIBILITY IS NOT ABOUT DOING THINGS IT IS OUR STATE OF BEING IN THE PROCESS OF DOING"which is very important.
5)Last but not least we have to remind ourselves that "WE AS PARENTS ARE ONLY FACILITATORS TO OUR CHILDREN"

DR.VISHWANATH DIXIT
(Any thoughts or comments not this is welcome)

sahana sundar Posted on6:56 am - Aug 21, 2017

Thanks Vishu

Kavya Narayan Posted on5:36 pm - Aug 28, 2017

Children are the best teachers to parents..in today's world most of the parents want their children to get into competitive mode,due to which children tend to care least about their parents.the care n love for family is very limited, upbringing matters..let's always bring the feeling of togetherness,it's only one life that we have.

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