Relationships have become very unpredictable and strange these days. 2 facts about relationship that hit my mind very instantly are
- Divorce in Relationship
- Not interested in Relationship
Our mother and father or maybe uncles and unties have been in a relationship for many years despite all the misunderstandings, fights, difference of opinion and so on but today even small things can lead to instant divorce or breaking of a relationship.
It’s a sorry state of the world and hence we see a lot of Live-In Relationship which is not the norm of a cultured society but we see it happen. It’s like buying time in a relationship to understand if 2 people can stay with each other for a longer time.
Ways of Expressing
A man and a woman have different ways of expressing love.
A man may sometimes not say things but tries to be available for a woman and wants to offer all the help possible and hide their emotions.
A woman will always show a lot of care and will be very expressive in words and action but will always hide her insecurities due to fear of loss.
Reactions in Stress
A man will mostly turn to friends and boozing when stressed. It’s surprising as the effect of booze goes off the next day but movies and western culture has taken over our minds.
A woman on other hand also does 2 things; one is remembering the old memories of the past and second is remembering her mother’s house but doesn’t speak up.
Remember: A Man and Woman both need each other and have their strengths and weaknesses.
Now let’s look at the title MAN who is a FAN in a relationship.
Girls are very soft natured originally though they have better levels of dealing with emotional stress. They change their homes and surnames to take up a bigger role at a man’s house so they need a MAN who is a FAN in their long term relationship post marriage but it’s applicable even before marriage in a relationship.
What is FAN?
FAN is a word we associate with the 3 winged device on the roof of a room which gives us air isn’t it? So what has fan got to do with relationship?
Let’s dive into more details of FAN. FAN is a mix of 3 qualities a girl looks for in a man.
F – Faith
The biggest value due to which relationships last for years together is faith. If there is no faith then life is like an empty plate. Girls need the man to be faithful in a relationship. Faith can’t be defined as such but the words, actions and vibrations are enough for a girl to judge in a relationship. They probably have been blessed by god with some 6th sense and will never doubt a man unless she has gathered enough evidence.
Sometimes though, it can be misleading if she does not clarify her doubts which can cause stress in a relationship and lead to unpleasant life.
A – Appreciation
Everyone needs a little bit of appreciation. When a woman changes her house and comes into a man’s house, she is connected to you and everyone connected to you. Everyone is on a learning curve and have their own tensions. A girl sitting at home is not free of challenges, only the nature of challenges is different.
Sometimes a girl may have a different moods basis their health issues or something that’s troubling them internally and may not share due to some fears. That sometimes leads to lack of concentration like
- Forgetting important things
- Less salt in food
- Unable to do everyday tasks efficiently
That’s when she expects her man to be a good listener and understand her unspoken words. She does not require advice but appreciation of what she does well. She can digest the fact that the man’s family may not understand her but at least the man should be appreciate of what she does in the relationship.
N – Newness
Men are good at being informative and watching a lot of videos on youtube and watching television. They will watch news, movies and catch on all the new trends in the world. It makes them feel more knowledgeable.
A woman expects the man to be changing with time, at least nowadays with everyone being so connected on whatsapp and social media. Maybe to start with, a man can give small gifts and do special things on birthdays and anniversaries.
Also, sometimes taking her shopping during sale is a good idea. A woman mostly understands the intent of the man and is good with finances. Going for movies and eating out once a while also adds to the newness as she gets break from kitchen work and helps her unwind.
Hope every Woman finds a MAN who is a FAN and has a wonderful relationship.
Do share your thoughts and share it with others if you can relate.