The selfish act of forgiveness

The selfish act of forgiveness

Forgiveness – it’s a word well spoken, often debated about; yet, its tentacles are far too tightly wound to break free with ease. There’s that ego that always powers up the energy to not forgive. And in recent times, fear has begun to play an even stronger role in holding one back from forgiving.

I’ve experienced the power play of ego and fear building a dam of resistance against forgiving. It spreads a shroud of Maya – a sense of feeling all-important and powerful when you make that split second decision to not forgive. I’ve reveled in that power.


Felt it rise to my head and heat it up to form a red halo.


And then one day came along a tiny little being. This being, tiny as it was, had a radiant halo of forgiveness that dulled my red one to shame. The little being’s halo began playing quantum physics with me. I learnt to become more forgiving of the constant sleepless days and nights caused by this little being, I started forgiving all those aches and pains, I started forgiving people around me who, I believed, irritated the life out of me during those post natal days. One at a time, without my knowledge, the shackles of ego began to break free.

Over the last four years, life has thrown me in the face of several ego-enhancers and fears from my past. Every time, the first reaction was to forgive. The act of “Forgetting” followed, albeit later. Yet, the forgiving helped me tide through difficult circumstances, dulled the pain. Every time I forgave a past, I felt more positive, more alive, more radiant. And then came the best part – I began realizing that inner peace led to self-satisfaction, and that self-satisfaction has been the key to sifting positive criticism from gossip.


Every time I forgive someone for hurting me, I’m actually gifting myself a box of positive energy. It feels like a karmic bond that’s broken, letting love and light course deeper into my being. It also results in a positive shift in the forgiven person’s persona. There’s one ego shackle broken there, and here I hold my head higher with a strength heretofore unknown. And this, dear readers, is the path of life that my little girl shoved me back on to from wherever I wavered to.


Try it if you can. It’s worth the karmic effort.

Keerthana Venkatesh
Keerthana Venkatesh

Keerthana Venkatesh’s passion for writing has helped her chart her professional life with a gamut of industries in the last 10+ years. She has worked with some of the biggest brands of media across a variety of subjects, including business and technology. She also helped establish its content process when it was moving into B2C play. She currently manages the global marketing communications for iRunway Inc., a technology consulting firm specializing in patent analysis, licensing and litigation. Keerthana’s passion for writing and her journalistic streak recently took wings when she helped author a book, "The God In The Boardroom". The book includes a set of 13 interviews with leaders of India Inc. and showcases the driving force behind their passion to take their companies to greater heights. An avid traveller, Keerthana is also an alternative energy therapist who thrives on the idea of positivism. You can visualize these reflections in her blog where she shares snippets of everyday life.

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Shrabanti Ray
Shrabanti Ray Posted on3:11 pm - Apr 26, 2018

Forgiveness is an art by itself. It transcends above everything else and gradually leads towards forgetting. The pain and the anger that coagulates is a lot . Shed some of it and we release ourselves from the shackles.
Forgive and Forget
Don’t misinterpret.

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