FATHER – A Role Almost Every Man Is Scared To PLAY Initially But REJOICE Eventually.

FATHER – A Role Almost Every Man Is Scared To PLAY Initially But REJOICE Eventually.

FATHER – A Role Almost Every Man Is Scared To PLAY Initially But REJOICE Eventually.

It was a Wonderful Sunday Morning and I along with my family was in the ISKON Temple. It was a surprise when one of my friends called me and told me to write a small write on Father’s Day. He has been pushing me for the last couple of months to start writing as he seems to be aware of my skills. I simply acknowledged and told him that I will submit my article by Evening, though I don’t know where he will publish.

In the evening, I came to know it’s going to be published on Sparking.Biz where many other articles on Father’s Day are also being published.

This is the first article of My Life and that too on Father’s Day, I express my gratitude to all My Readers to read and share their insights.

Have you decided to read this article completely with focus and an open mind?

If your answer is YES then I believe you will enjoy reading.

If your answer is NO then probably it will be a good decision to close it for now and come back whenever you feel open for it. I can understand how tough it is to give full attention to every text, every call and every happening around you.

If you are reading this line means you said YES

So, let’s go through the article…

In this article, I had to mention the role and characteristics of a MOTHER too so that to bring out clarity in expressing the role of a FATHER. Honestly, I could not find any other alternative to this. I feel MOTHER & FATHER are inseparable even in writing.

Well, when the content is related to FATHER, I believe we should be very careful and be prepared to receive love in different dimensions. Unlike Mothers, Fathers will have some different methodologies to bring up their kids. FATHER is a person who is exposed to multiple environments (work, society, family, finances etc.) at the same time, thus his emotions are executed differently in different stages of life.

It’s a well-known fact that his way of showing love is not the same when you are a baby and when you are a teenager. As you grow in life from a Baby to Toddler to Child to Teenager to Young Adult to Middle age, the way you perceive your father and the way your father perceives you go through a drastic change.

With time, once your hero who brings you freedom will turn into someone who will be a freedom blocker. The one who brings happiness to you at any cost may become the one who seems against what makes you happy. (Can you relate yourself with this thought???)

Such a critical role, which is constantly in danger of getting rejected for every futuristic thinking based act which may seem unfavorable today but eventually bring the well-being of the whole family. Isn’t it?

Overall the World has witnessed almost same kind of Motherhood from almost every Mother on this planet earth. All mothers are wonderful. They have immense love for their kids and their love or the way they show their love won’t differ most of the times. They are simply predictable. Getting love from them is almost guaranteed irrespective of your social and professional standings. They don’t care much whether you are a CEO or clerk, for them you are a baby to be taken care of.

But when it comes to FATHER, it’s a different story altogether. The same role has been portrayed by different people in different conditions of life. I would like to share something about some of the kinds which I experienced in my journey of life. Some I have seen, some I have heard about, one which I experienced and the one which I am playing currently. I believe you also have your own list of different kinds of the father. (Though you didn’t make it on paper I guess you can recall few.)

Well, it would be great if I can put all this kind through a flow chart but to simplify it I will put it in simple text. I took four different areas to explain.

  • RESPONSIBLE FATHER
  • IRRESPONSIBLE FATHER
  • MY FATHER
  • I AS A FATHER

RESPONSIBLE FATHER:

Further divided into

a) Responsible and Expresses Love often:

These kinds of Fathers are very rare. They live beyond expectations and they express their love in words and actions very well. The kids will aim to be like their father. Socially their status varies but the quality of love and care they provide for their kids is almost same and fulfilling. They are approachable for their kids. No great secrets can be hidden from them. They give freedom to his kids and most probably the freedom is never misused. They may not give everything their kids desire but there will be harmony and expectations gets managed through self-expression. Such fathers are less prone to illness or any bitter conditions in life.

If you have such a father then you are fortunate. It’s your duty to keep him blissful.2

b) Responsible but does not Express Love very often:

It’s a kind where there is always a communication gap. The love is there but unexpressed. Somehow expectations are managed but still, there will be something empty inside the relationship. Basic needs, some special needs are fulfilled through immense hard work but due to no self-expression, there will always exist little agitations. In this type, there is a chance that unsaid things will create uneasiness inside and over a period of time they show up in some illness. Overall a regret of “not spent time well with my family” will eat up the life. If you have such a father then try to fill the gaps, bridge them somehow before it’s too late. They gave their best, you give yours.

There are single fathers too who fall under this category who give their best in creating a better future for their children.

IRRESPONSIBLE FATHER:

Further divided into

a) Irresponsible but not harmful:

These kinds of Fathers do exist due to the improper upbringing by their parents or due to the destructive addictions or due to the physical disability or any other reason which never made them realize their role as a responsible father to their kids.

Irresponsible but not harmful means they may not contribute to the well-being of the family to a great extent but their presence will not hamper the harmony too. Either they add little value or no value but at least we can be sure that there will be no degradation due to them. In this case, the mother becomes the lead in the family and put all struggles both as a mother and as a father.

If you have such a father then you can either blame your destiny or you can put effort to make the things better with him.

b) Irresponsible and Destructive:

The reason for being irresponsible may be same as I mentioned earlier but It’s a kind where the family will always be out of harmony. Every day will be unpredictable. This happens in majorly where the sense of being is responsible for the family is completely burnt out in the mode of ignorance and destructive addictions. Majority of single mothers are a product of such destructions.

If you have such a father then it’s time to take a hard step to improve the life of your rest of the family.

MY FATHER:

My father is somewhere between the two types of RESPONSIBLE FATHER. For some time, there was communication gap but over a period of time I have filled it and today I can say that we are doing pretty well. Majority of the things I asked him are given. He gave me the freedom to choose from all my life. Starting from schooling to career to marrying the girl I wish to marry, everything was my choice. I don’t know why but he always believed that I can make better choices than him so he kept himself away in any decision-making process related to me. And in return, I proved him right by doing well with the majority of my decisions.

As a non-business background person, he had huge reluctance to let me start my own business but over a period of time, he took the same stand what he used to take for all my other decisions.  I believe I am gifted with such a wonderful father who has always loved and added value to my life.

I AS A FATHER:

Living a life of an Entrepreneur who is yet to make great success brings a different experience altogether. All the general basics of family life seem shaken. In this condition being a father to a 4-year-old boy is a bit of tough job. That too where your kids can think faster than you I hope you can understand how different will be the atmosphere.

I believe it’s too early to judge what kind of father I am but I think somewhere the knowledge and wisdom I acquired through different sources and experiences are helping me today in shaping myself as a good father. I am just improving with time. I too do blunders when it comes to taking care of a child, my wife still feels I am completely insane in this area (Well, anything less than the perfect is considered insane). However, my son feels I am far better than his mom in some cases (Yet his validation is invalid to his mom).

I think in future, on a Father’s Day, my son would be able to write about his authentic observations/experiences with me in a form of an article. And that day the world around will be able to fit me into one of the kinds which I mentioned in this article.

If you have reached to this line with a pleasant experience then I believe you saying YES to read this article has been worth.

I thank you from bottom of my heart for your time and focus in reading this article.

ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Sriharsh Vaidya is a Professional Networker and a Life Coach. He puts his major work in building an organization Of Entrepreneurs and Professionals from different walks of life through Direct Selling Industry Platform.

He also provides his support through various Training & Development Platforms which are focused on Entrepreneurship, Psychology and Spiritual Science.

Chetan Bansal
Chetan Bansal

Chetan Bansal is a Global Entrepreneur, working on the mission “Building Lives Together”. She works on the Philosophy of holding and guiding each other through every storm, and sailing together towards a broader vision and common goals.

5 Comments

Hitangxi Bhuta Posted on5:15 pm - Jun 17, 2018

Very excellent ???? I really enjoyed reading

Venkateswara reddy Posted on5:20 pm - Jun 17, 2018

Amazing… Learnned alot… Thank You so much for this wonderful explanation

Saikrishna Posted on5:26 pm - Jun 17, 2018

Wonderful article. Even though it’s a first article, He expressed the true feelings about his father and his son.

When Jaikrith was at the age of one year, I entered into his life. I have spent more and more time in getting trained as a entrepreneur. In future if Jaikrith reads this article, definitely he will get to know and will get angry on me too as I have eaten his personal time with his father. But Hatsoff Mr.Sriharsh for sacrificing that time for Jaikrith future, even he wants to spend that lovely time with his son.

I’m felt very greatful for getting a trainer cum life coach cum brother in my life. I don’t know how to express gratitude in words. Definitely he was is and will be wonderful father for his son.

With Love
Your brother

Basetty saikiran Posted on8:17 am - Jun 18, 2018

Article means self realization of our thoughts and feelings by some other person who has written…..and this article made me feel enrich to read it on the father day..such a beautiful description for the first time I read …thank you Anna for a wonderful article,I hope to see such more article from you .

NIkhil Kumar Linga Posted on3:07 pm - Jun 20, 2018

Hare Krishna Anna ??
This article is worth Reading.
How a father should actually be.
A Father n Mother can design a child life before the child is born. Or can have plan to make the child design himself.
How ur bringing up Jaikrith is an example for many father’s.
I learnt many things from my journey with u n this article. Since my journey with u. I always think n plan of how inspiring father I should be for my child.

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