Success is your benchmark and not the world’s

Success is your benchmark and not the world’s


Success has a different connotation for all. It isn’t tangible , we can’t touch, see, or hear it but we all want and crave for it. What’s so alluring about it. Its more of the outward glow of money, fame, recognition, awards, a high lifestyle, being up there on the stage and people looking up to you as their ideal, a hero. Each one of us wishes and desires this glorifying moment. We are so blinded by this life of fun, fame and glamour that we can’t and don’t want to see the dark side of it.

If only we take a step backward and check the situation in a calm and collected way, we would learn to tread carefully with caution and not rush into this arena blindly. We all are aware that everything has an ugly and a beautiful side to it. We only see the lovely red rose and become oblivious to the thorns just below it. Even after knowing that there are two sides of the coin, we become so obsessed that without considering the pros and cons we jump into it headlong only to repent later when it’s of no use then. We are shocked at our own behaviour that how could we have not thought of this earlier.

We nourish our body with wholesome and nutritious food. But do we even remember to nourish our soul which also needs fulfilment. We have all the time in the world to enhance our lifestyle by working rather slogging to earn more and to reach the top as soon as possible. What we don’t learn the easy way is of leading a balanced life. What do we mean by a balanced life style? We believe we are smart, educated so we don’t need to connect with our real self, with no time for prayers, meditation and enjoying our own company. We turn away our faces when we get the gut feeling, the intuition. That uneasy feeling is overlooked by thinking that we are tired and after a restful sleep all will be fine.We neglect to nourish our soul which craves for contentment, fulfillment and peace. Let us not be so blind and deaf that we overlook the most essential part of our being, which is seeking our attention in so many ways . We start considering that it is small and insignificant. The industrial Revolution has made man a machine robbing him of his peace,contentment, enjoying natures beauty and left us with the uppermost thought that besides accumulating , hoarding and pursuing material benefits there is no other greater success.

Who decides whether we are successful or not ? Why should we give away our power of setting our own benchmarks to someone else who doesn’t even know or understand us. Its our own self that decides what is it that will give us the greatest  happiness for our self and family. There is no one formula for all. We all are unique in our own ways, have our own mindset, perceptions and we do not let others decide or judge for us.We need to guard ourselves fiercely to take our own decisions and not get swayed by what the world expects from us. We have a free will and masters of our mind. Its we who decide what is essential  and keep up a balanced outlook so that we don’t run in one direction only but have a holistic lifestyle keeping in mind the body, mind and soul s betterment.

Recently we have seen so many cases where the world is looking up to a person as an ideal, a successful person having name, fame, glory and we have no idea.of what that person is going through and in a few days we hear the sad news that person has committed suicide and is no more . What we are puzzled about is how.could this have happened when there was everything he had . We are judging the person on the criteria of who a successful person is by that norm that one size fits all. We are unable to understand that there could have been an inner vacuum, loneliness at the top.

Tanishq Dedhia

Aparna Dedhia, from Mumbai .She is a textile designer, writer for travel sites, blogs and is a ghost writer. Her main interests lies in connecting with people and giving life to their emotions through her writing.

1 comment so far

Meenakshi Raina Posted on10:16 am - Aug 16, 2018

Beautiful write up but it would have been more impressive if more areas pertaining to success have been covered.

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