I read an interesting article about a nonagenarian; Karthiyani Amma, who received a merit certificate for acing her class IV exam in Kerala with 98 percent marks! She was benefitted by the program ‘Aksharalaksham’ organised by Kerala State Literacy Mission. Amma was the oldest candidate who appeared and aced the exam despite of never been to school in her life. She also expressed interest towards computers for further studies. What an inspiration!
Reading her story made me realise that learning has no age indeed, one just need willingness and opportunity. This blog is dedicated to all my role models like her.
Who is a Role Model?
It’s a person who inspires us and motivates us to become a better version of ourselves. Having a role model who’s been there and done that makes it easier for us as we simply have to follow their steps of success. If you want to be a good public speaker, then talk to your inspiration as to how they learnt to convert stage fright to stage delight. If you see a colleague who’s doing better at work than you; converse with them on what strategy are they applying. If you want to score good marks in exam, talk to an ace student and understand how they study. Learn from them and design your own path.
Anybody who inspires you can be your role model!
The only problem is that we get inspired easily but are not ready to commit for the efforts instead we learn to excel at excuses. Think of how often we say the following:
- “I want to, but I can’t because…”
- “The timing is not right…”
- “I have so many responsibilities right now…”
- “I will definitely start it from the first of next month” (which never comes)
Are your excuses more important than your dreams?
“The only difference between the master and a beginner is that the master has failed more times the beginner has even tried.”
So, let us learn from our masters / role models by using the RQB approach:
- Identify a Role model for a specific change you want in your life.
- Identify 1 -2 Qualities that you are imbibing from them. (avoid a laundry list!)
- Identify 1 -2 Benefits you will stand to gain once you have imbibed those qualities. (this helps you stay motivated as you have established the ‘what’s in it for me?’)
Role modelling is a straightforward and effective technique and ever since I have started using it, it has completely changed my outlook. I no longer get jealous or petty. Whenever I look at someone doing good, I immediately use the RQB approach and figure out the learning.
I take Inspiration from the external to improve my internal.
I even have an RQB journal which refer daily. Once, I feel that I have imbibed the qualities of my role model, I move on to identify a new quality or a role model. Thus, the beautiful process of learning continues. You can role model on an animal or a plant or even yourself for something which you have demonstrated successfully before. As I have said already; anybody who inspires can be a role model!
A large part of our influence, directly or indirectly, also comes, from the company around us. The following lines from Shiv Khera’s book, ‘You can win’ describe it aptly:
An eagle’s egg was placed in the nest of a prairie chicken. The egg hatched, and the little eagle grew up thinking it was a prairie chicken. The eagle did what the prairie chickens did. It scratched in the dirt for seeds. It clucked and cackled. It never flew more than a few feet because that is what the prairie chickens did. One day he saw an eagle flying gracefully and majestically in the open sky. He asked the prairie chickens: “What is that beautiful bird?” The chickens replied, “That is an eagle. He is an outstanding bird, but you cannot fly like him because you are just a prairie chicken.” So, the eagle never gave it a second thought, believing that to be the truth. He lived the life of and died a prairie chicken, depriving himself of his heritage because of his lack of vision. What a waste! He was born to win but was conditioned by the company to lose.
Hence, be wary of the company you keep and the people around you. In the end, I will summarize with this one line dedicated to all my Role models
They don’t preach, they lead the way!
So, who is your Role Model?
Write your answer in the comments section (use the RQB approach)