Our Conversation with Self…Part I

Our Conversation with Self…Part I

Our Conversation with Self…Part I

I don’t think I can do this?

I better keep my mouth shut. What will s/he think about me?

Why are they looking at me like this? Am I looking uncool?

I am not good enough

How does the above conversation with you make you feel? Really bad right? So how do we make these with ourselves positives?


Talk to yourself like you would to someone you love”


Have you ever noticed what your inner voice is trying to tell you?


Self-talk is a normal phenomenon, we all talk in our minds. It is our inner voice, the voice in our head that says things which we often can’t say aloud. Kristin Neff, a writer, and researcher in Huffington says that people who are self-motivated are less likely to suffer from depression, anxiety, stress, and insecurity, and more likely to be happy, optimistic, confident, and successful.


Many don’t agree, but we can practice the way we talk to ourselves, by encouraging more positive self-talk. And why not? Positive self-talks inspire us; they help increase our confidence, empower us to pursue what our heart desires, enable us to create a conducive environment for growth, and allow us to live with a mind full of hopefulness and love.

Congratulate and Thank yourself for your achievements. We tend to thank the world but forget ourselves. It may be that you did not complete the task but you made a genuine effort. Acknowledge that effort and say to yourself “Well done”. See the impact it will create in your life and how you talk to yourself will also reflect in the way you talk to others. You will see yourself being more patient, mindful, empathetic and ultimately HAPPY. Wow! Is that not AWESOME?

Our actions are a reflection of our thoughts. However, it is difficult to practice positive self-talk always, especially while undergoing a stressful life event. Changing the way we chatter in our minds may be hard in the beginning, but once we master it, it can impact our physical and mental well being in surprising ways. Let us explore the ways in which we can develop positive self-talk. We are all creatures of habit and it takes time. All we have to do is develop the power of daily practice.


Rajat Soni
Rajat Soni

Rajat Soni is a globally Certified Teen Life Coach and Motivational Speaker, helping teenagers channelize their energy in the positive direction. He has assisted his clients in overcoming shyness and social anxiety, self-esteem concerns, learning difficulty and lack of motivation by enabling a strategic goal-setting process for them. Writing liberates him,connects him to his inner self and also provides him an opportunity to make a difference in the life of others. He is a published author and also has a blog.For more info please visit www.rajatsoni.coach


Raadhaaki Posted on2:25 pm - Feb 5, 2018


Ashita Posted on12:39 pm - Feb 6, 2018

Wow Aparna, exact feelings reciprocated.. i do that all the time.. really liked the flow of words as if you could actually read my mind.. ????????

    Ashita Posted on2:07 pm - Feb 6, 2018

    Sorry meant to say Rajat..

Meenakshi Raina Posted on6:22 pm - Feb 16, 2018

I do agree with ur write up. By practicing the habit of self talk we can not only overcome our fears & anxiety but can also develop our confident identity. Beautiful write up Mr. Rajat Soni?

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